Are you ever truly aware of what makes you suddenly burst into anger?
One minute you are having fun joking with people but the next minute someone says something and you feel like you want to explode?
There are actually warning signs which signal that you are feeling angry. If you are aware of these signals, you can take effective steps to control and reduce your anger.
Anger is a physical response that is perfectly normal and healthy.
Everyone at some point feel angry because of someone or something that happen. What makes an outcome different is the way each person responds to these feelings.
Anger is also known as one of the flight or fight responses. Your body feels threatened and that’s why you have an adrenaline rush feeling to either run away from the stressful situation or to confront abruptly with what are pressuring you.
Each person will have different kinds of triggers and below are some of the most common ones:
That knotty feeling in the pit of your stomach
The onset of headaches
Jaw clenching or hand clenching
Rapid shallow breathing
The need to start pacing around
Excessive tension built up around your body
As soon as you start noticing any of these triggers, you should proactively act on them in a good way.
It is crucial to understand what triggered these emotions. Many times it is “what you think about what happened” and not “what really happened” that is the cause of your feelings.
It’s more about your subjective interpretation rather than the objective occurrence of the event.
Have you ever found yourself saying things like, “you never consider my feelings” or “you don’t get what I mean” or “this is totally not what I wanted”? Most likely you may actually just be jumping to conclusions.
So the first thing you must remember is to NOT act instinctively. Instead, you should assess the situation in a third person manner and think before acting or speaking.
Another cause of anger triggers can be found in your daily routine.
Do you hate the long commute to work each day? Do you find yourself always getting mad when hanging around with a certain group of people or a person?
If so, look if it’s possible to reduce these triggers. Can you carpool with your friend a couple of times a week so you aren’t doing the driving all the time? Find other people to sit with at lunch time if possible, or go for a nature walk alone to reduce the amount of time spent with them.
The next time you start experiencing any of these trigger signs of anger, know them for what they really are. Your body is triggering a natural response so look for a healthy way to deal with the situation.
Notice that signal. Be aware of your emotions. And choose intelligently whether you need to stay to fight or to walk away from the bad situation.